Growth Through Failure - Dumb Things I've Done In Social Media.
(I recommend you DON'T do these things!)
In this post I will be sharing some of my personal experiences and mistakes I've made in social media. (And learnt from...)
Firstly, I would like to discuss the meanings of 'Social Media'
I believe that the word 'Social' is key here. It is about society and community. Making genuine connections with people and sharing useful ideas, information, and opinions. Everybody has one (opinion) as the proverbial goes - Should you share yours?
Well I once would have said, sure just say what you like when you like. Don't censor yourself at all. After spending the last few months very actively in Social Networks and online I have tempered my thoughts a little on this.
Why say stupid, boring, or needlessly negative comments?
Once you hit enter, if you say or post something stupid or malicious it is more than likely going to reflect poorly on yourself. People develop a sense of your character over time, and friends may forgive some of this, but people who are just getting to know you or see you for the first time are likely to form negative impressions of you if you do this.
Digg, Stumbleupon, Reddit and other social bookmarking sites:
Submit rubbish content that is not interesting.
People won't digg, stumble, or upvote those submissions, which are recorded.. and make you look like a lame submitter. (Because you are)
Either submit stuff you actually like and think some other people will also like or don't bother. Long term if you like that site, you would want to be a good user wouldn't you? Check out and learn from what the people that inspire you do. Do a little research about the network... It is your community now so get to know it, and some of the people in it. Follow, friend, read, and learn from the best. (Whoever you think that may be, though remember if thousands of other people are interesting in them, they are at least doing something right. Whether or not that interests you is your choice, obviously.)
Not reply to comments. I have had a few comments on this blog and should have replied to them straight away.. Unknowingly, I ignored the people who were gracious enough to visit, read the post, and spend some time to comment! I'm sorry people, and I do endeavour to be conscious of this in future, and always try to reply promptly. Tip: In blogspot here, I have turned email notification to comments on.
Now I will know via email when I get comments, so can read them and reply if necessary.
Write lame posts. (Haha, not sure if this specific post qualifies for lame, but may help some people hopefully. That is the intent.)
Have an unprofessional or default looking blog. Yes this blog layout is still very boring. I'm new here cut me some slack, I'll work on it.
Some of my faux paus here:
Be patronising. (I actually didn't mean to be, was trying to be funny with a lame joke or similar... but came off differently.)
A few times I have been rude to people inadvertently on twitter doing this. I felt bad and foolish for how I must have sounded. wished I'd put more thought into it, as I actually like those people.. Who have now unfollowed me.
People have all sorts of reasons for following and unfollowing though and I don't worry too much about why or judge anyone's choices.. I have no idea why each individual chose to unfollow me. It could have been for anything. That is the beauty of social media, it is a two way street as I've heard said many times. You can friend or follow whoever you choose.
Another time, before I'd even spoken to a person, I @replied them with a link! What a fool! It was only in jest, but I immediately thought, woops! Sorry! See you can't take those actions back, they've happened now.
But I do learn, and that is the most important thing. Choose to surround yourself with people that inspire and motivate you. Folks that entertain you, and bring out best in you. Share with them, help to bring out their best... Have fun in the many communities online as you develop your digital self.
Every letter you type, photo you post etc. is left there online for anyone to see, and the masses will never get to know who you really are on a very personal level. Which does make it important to try to present yourself as best you can. After some time online, I now see that it is just as important as say wearing makeup for women, or brushing your teeth etc. It is not about being fake or insincere, it is about etiquette, and respect.
Get to know people and try to have meaningful, genuine conversations... Be social! And hey, these aren't rules, and sorry if I sounded a little cliche, anywhere in the post. If anything did sound cliche, is because I believe it is true, or appropriate. I'm just sharing my beliefs and experiences. Any other thoughts people?